The love you have for your children – there is nothing else.
I heard that on a TV drama a few years ago – it was true to me then and it is true to me now, except I would include the love I have for my beautiful wife, Sharon.
Ned – what can I say? For those of you who knew him, there is no need for me to say anything. For those who didn’t – just look at him. He was always a happy boy, everything and anything made him happy. He was so full of energy and love for life. He was simply our special little boy and we love him and miss him so very much.
Tomi and I have spent a lot of time together these last couple of weeks and during this time we have been looking at YouTube music videos. For some of you who know me it would come as no surprise that we were looking at the Black Eyed Peas (that’s the hip hop group not the food). We came across their song ‘Where is the love?’ It asks with all the bad things going on in the world, where is the love?
Ned has been shown it, from the people who knew him well to the people who knew him only briefly. We were not able to be with Ned in his last moments but have drawn comfort from the people who were there – the doctors, police, firemen, ambulance crew and members of the public who all loved Ned when he needed it. He touched their hearts and we would like to thank everyone who helped Ned in his hour of need. We would also like to thank those who have helped us over the past two weeks. I don’t think we appreciate our public servants enough.
We would also like to thank our friends and family and everyone who has offered us their love, kindness and support.
So I can now tell the Black Eyed Peas that we have found the love and that Good will always prevail.
The last few years with Sharon, Tomi, Ned and Cai have been the happiest of my life. The last few days have been very dark. At one point I was going to tell my friends not to have children as the pain of losing them is too great; that thought has now gone. There will be endless dark days ahead but I do feel a glimmer of hope that in time we will remember Ned for the loving little boy he was, who brought us so much happiness in his short life.
My mission in life is simple: to make my family happy. I do not feel angry, bitter or resentful, but I do feel a desperate sadness at what might have been. But mostly, I feel overwhelming love – love for my wife, Sharon (Sharon, I love you and will never leave your side) and love for my sons Tomi, Ned and Cai. Tomi and Cai I love you and I’m going to build you a tree house this summer. Ned, I love you and miss you more than I can put into words. You are in our hearts every second of every day and I hope that one day, I’ll be with you again.